![]() When you share what is going on for you, chances are high that your friends will respond and share that they too are feeling, or have felt, similarly to you. Like you're the only one suffering (especially if you spend any time on social media!). When you're visited by difficult feelings, it's easy to feel alone. Realize that you're not alone in feeling unpleasant feelings (You can read more about this in our other article, You are not the centre of the Universe.) 7. ![]() Sharing your struggles, feelings and thoughts allows you to gain new perspectives on the situation and to more objectively analyze a situation. Your friends have had different experiences to you and will see the same situation differently than you do. Gain new perspectives on a situation or feeling you're struggling with Opening up to a friend can jolt you back to the present and into a more productive mindset that will actually allow you to do something about the feeling. With intense feelings, especially ones like worry and uncertainty, it's easy to get stuck ruminating like your brain is obsessively pondering a question, going through what happened or imagining what may happen. have you ever held back from sharing your feelings, even when your friends can clearly see that you need help? By sharing your feelings and what you need, you invite the people who care about you to support you, the way you want to be supported. Have you ever found yourself wanting to support a friend but not known how? How often have you wished that they would share what was going on for them, what they needed? Now consider how you tend to feel. You'll be better supported and understood Through brain imaging studies, the researchers found that the mere act of putting feelings into words reduced brain activity in the amygdala, one of the primary areas of the brain associated with processing emotional responses, meaning that the intensity of an emotion decreases. Psychologists at UCLA have proven what we've suspected all along, that talking about feelings is relieving. Research has shown that talking about feelings lowers their intensity Instead, by recognizing and seeking to understand your feelings, you'll learn what's important to you and be able to live a more fulfilling life in line with your values. Trying to ignore that feeling would be invalidating to your experience and your values. If you're upset over something, it's because you care about it. Talking about your feelings validates that what you are experiencing is real and means something to you. Talking about your feelings is validating It’s part of taking charge of your wellbeing and doing what you can to stay healthy." 2. Like the UK-based Mental Health Foundation writes, "talking about your feelings isn’t a sign of weakness. Instead, facing them head-on by talking about them with a trusted friend, family member or qualified therapist is one of the most successful strategies for dealing with whatever's going on for you. ![]() It doesn't work (trust me! I've been trying for over 30 years). Feelings don't magically disappear just because you ignore themīottling up really isn't an option. We hope you remember these next time you're holding on to your feelings and are wondering what to do. We've summarized 10 reasons why you should talk about your feelings rather than hush up. Too many of us tend to ignore our feelings and suffer alone when the opposite is much more effective.
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